Guilt Free Mother's Day

This Sunday Morning, we continue our sermon series on Philippians. We will be studying 1:12-18 together. It will not be the traditional Proverbs 31 message that mother’s hear most years. Some women will be glad about that.  I don’t know the stress they feel, so I am not going to pretend that I do. But I do talk with my wife and other moms a great deal about the stress and the guilt they feel, especially Christian mothers.

One mom told me that she was not the Proverbs 31 women, but the Proverbs 30:1 woman  I am weary, O God; I am weary, O God, and worn out. “ The Bible portrays an ideal in Proverbs 31.  This lady appears to not sleep, make money outside the home, make their clothes, and care for the needs of her family and others. It is daunting.
I don’t have the space to addresses this lady and her traits, but ladies remember her description comes from a mother telling her son what kind of woman to look to marry. If you were describing your sons ideal mate you would want her to be beyond amazing as well. This is not to say you should not seek to emulate her traits by God’s grace as much as possible.

However, many Christian mothers see themselves as just not good enough. I hear this a lot. They will almost heartbrokenly confess that they feel that they don’t pray enough or hard enough. Thatthat they don’t worship enough or good enough, that they don’t study their bibles enough, that they don’t know enough scripture, that they don’t trust enough, that they don’t live good enough lives, that they don’t give enough, that they don’t serve enough, that they don’t love their husbands enough, that they don’t dress right, that they don’t have time to work out, that they don’t spend enough time with their friends, that they don’t feed their children nutritious meals enough, that they don’t respect their husbands enough, that they don’t share their faith enough and that they don’t _________enough. You fill in the blank.

While I do not want to write mothers who are seeking to honor Jesus in their lives a blank check to strive for Christlikeness, I do want to offer the greatest motherly advice you may ever receive from a man. Where you may feel you are not enough, Jesus is enough! 

Think of how you feel when you look at your kids at night asleep.  They might have been the worst kids ever that day! But when they are asleep all you can think about is how much you love them. Today, this is how God looks at you. Moms, he knows your faults and failures. He knows your worries and your fears. He knows you try and He knows you may sometimes fail. But His Son Jesus died and rose again and if you have placed your faith in Jesus, he looks at you and all he sees and feels towards you is love and acceptance!

It is because of this we can read in Romans 8:1 “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. “ Get this. This does not say there is some condemnation, but none! Please understand that you serve God from freedom and grace, not from guilt and condemnation seeking to win His approval! This means mother’s, if you know Jesus as your savior, you are not condemned!
Mothers, even though you may feel you are...

·         You are not condemned by messy homes.

·         You are not condemned for not having the time or desire to serve at                          church.

·         You are not condemned for being unmarried.

·         You are not condemned by your personal sins.

·         You are not condemned for struggling to love or like your husband right                         now.

·         You are not condemned by the knowledge of how easy it is for you to love                     one child more than another.

·         You are not condemned by your inability to cook.

·         You are not condemned by being divorced.

·         You are not condemned by your desire to be alone, away from the kids for                      a time every day.

·         You are not condemned by your failures as a mother.

·         You are not condemned by your rebellious and disrespectful children.

·         You are not condemned by feeling like you may be an inch away from                          losing it!

·         You are not condemned by not being able to throw the birthday party of                     the century for your kids.

·         You are not condemned for not feeding your kids organic meals.

·         You are not condemned by your need for a two hour nap.

·         You are not condemned for not living up to the standards of your Mother                     or Mother-in-law.

·         You are not condemned by the stares of those who have no kids when                             your kids scream and cry in public places.

We love you moms! I must also say this, any moms out there who may not know Jesus, maybe you know of him, but have never entered into a saving relationship with Him, while it may be hard to hear; In that case, you are condemned. You are judged. You can’t keep it all afloat because one day it will all crash. I don’t mean to be a prophet of doom, but this minuet, you can turn away from efforts of perfection that always fail and trust solely in Jesus’ perfection on your behalf.

The best mother’s day advice I can give to a mother who does not know Jesus is this Mat 11:28-30"Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  (29)  Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  (30) For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

I looking forward to a great Sunday!
Pastor Phillip